Steps toward Breaking Psychological and Generational Poverty

Conditions of poverty will cast a spell on people who are subject to low-income circumstances. Having to choose between buying food and paying a bill are stressors that chip away at the mental well-being of anybody. Yet during those times is when our psychological strengths are developed.

It is during those times that the smallest blessing preserves our optimism and during those times we learn to be thankful for the smallest doors that are opened to us. But when we go through these things with our children, we pass on all of our emotions, lessons, and character to them.

Children build character when they are faced with the struggle as they grow up, and the way they cope with life once they are grown comes from how the parent deals with the struggle. If the parent allows life to break them to a point of despair, the parent can almost certainly expect their child or children to approach life the same way.

But if the parent allows the struggles to strengthen their character, the children learn to do the same by nature. In addition, they learn that they cannot always have what they want because that is a reality. And as the parent adapts to the life they were dealt, with dignity and endurance, they begin to notice that things will eventually come their way.

The term "Woke," does not only apply to knowing and understanding the struggle of Black America and overcoming the oppression of our past, it also refers to understanding how to break the psychological barriers that neutralize us today.

Of the many barriers, economic empowerment stands atop the reasons Blacks cannot seem to rise in this so-called land of opportunity. Many believe that money would help us breakthrough and mend the problems we face; however, despite popular opinion, money does not make you free.

After struggling for the better part of their life, people tend to appreciate what they have over time and accept that there are things they will probably never have.

Money in itself can shackle a person to a lifetime of obligation, responsibility and more problems, further binding them to a life of indirect servitude to other people and to society. The key to being truly free comes in the embodiment of psychological awareness.

Poverty also, comes in a form of psychological bondage by inhabiting the mind to convince a person they are worthless and unable to compete in society. Psychological poverty subjugates a person to a constant and miserable longing for better things and a rich life of material possessions.

To break this subjugation, a person must reevaluate what is important in life. After struggling for the better part of their life, people tend to appreciate what they have over time and accept that there are things they will probably never have.

Once a person understands that having basic needs and living a modest life is the key to happiness and self-empowerment, they can overcome any feelings of inadequacy and most importantly, avoid feelings of envy, jealousy, and resentment toward others.

The rule of natural law is that everyone is given a portion in life and they must realize that portion and live accordingly. For instance; some people are born wealthy and some are born poor, and some born in between; but there is no guarantee that the roles cannot be reversed. People live within their portion each day. The key to realizing your portion is how well that person accepts and adapts to their life after living through the struggle.

If a person lives their life burdened by the despair of poverty, they pass that characteristic on to their children. They tell them "no, we cannot buy this or that," or "no, I cannot afford it." This is a defeatist mindset and will definitely bleed into the character of the child, and they will never feel satisfied. The best answer is "we do not always get what we want."

On the flip side, some parents over-reach and spend mindlessly on things they cannot reasonably afford and neglect the things they actually need. This irresponsible type approach to life causes an imbalance in future progress and in character building because it does not teach self-discipline or patience.

Another way parents prolong poverty is that they tend to enact tough love on their children by pushing them into the world too soon - without considering whether the child is mentally ready or not - and on the other hand, parents also tend to withhold certain things from their child because they do not believe the child can handle it, which breeds worthlessness into the child.

In a course of reverse psychology, the parent should allow the child to enter the world when they are ready along with giving - or helping - their child get things beyond the traditional limit, such as a cell-phone at 12, a car at 16 or an apartment at 18; or by financially helping the child who is a late starter, such as ones who leave home at 25. The parent should still help that child with a car or an apartment by passing on their own prosperity to the child. Some children are ready before the time and some are not but supporting them beyond tradition should always be done.

If the child is ready, they will be more than anxious to succeed in addition to learning responsibility. If the child is not ready for the world, they will become discouraged at the first sign of failure, especially if they have no help from the parent or any loved ones.

Parents should always teach their children (if more than one) to support one another and not turn on or be bitter toward one another. Infighting in the family will bring the whole family down even if one child fails because it puts more pressure on all the others. If all the children got each other's back, then all can maintain a standard of success.

Living with a successful, supportive, and unified mentality even when money is not plentiful is a form of accepting your portion in life with the added benefit of appreciating and enjoying life with the ones you love. Living with a defeated mindset will multiply from one person to the next. Regardless of how much money a person has, understanding that life consist of the basics together with unity will overcome poverty in every form.

Making sure your children and loved ones, as well as other people, have what they need unburdens a person from any guilt or feelings of shame, and also overshadows feelings of envy and jealousy, which can make life miserable. Furthermore, taking on life with strong character and a productive mindset is a reward in life that not many people have, or that money can buy.